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Real Projection

Suppose you are confronted with a person who makes a degrading remark towards you.

If the person succeeds in making you look bad, you would probably be angry at the person who made the remark.

But if you react to that remark with a quick-witted response which makes that person look like a fool, you would feel much less or no anger at the person who made the remark.

Why is it that depending on your own type of response, you feel angry or not towards the other person, who acted exactly the same in both situations?

That is because most of the anger you are feeling is not towards the other person but towards yourself, for not being able to protect your image.

You unconsciously project anger outward, while in reality the anger is directed towards yourself. You are convinced that you are angry at the other person while you are actually angry with yourself.

This indicates that ego defense mechanisms aren’t just psychobabble nonsense. They’re real.